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by Kate Ancell
Kate has been scoping out the bridal scene for years, from London to Kansas City and everywhere in between. There's almost nothing about weddings that she doesn't know - and she can't wait to share it all with you!
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July 07, 2010 - 2:54 PM
So, I don’t know if you all have been watching the Bravo show, Bethenny Getting Married?, but of course—being the Bravo addict that I am—I’m obsessed with it. If you haven’t seen it, don’t worry: they often have marathons (which is how I’ve gotten sucked into half of the stuff I now follow obsessively) and you’ll have plenty of opportunities to get caught up.
The reason I’m mentioning this show, though, is that I think it actually reflects a frighteningly accurate view of how the whole production of having a wedding can get in the way of remembering what a wedding is for. Watching someone whose life has been hijacked by fame and all the good and bad that comes with it, to be forced to relinquish (some) control and embrace the process, is a perfect reminder of why we do this—because our love is greater than our fear, and because we know that we have to listen to the heart’s call.
I actually hate it when people describe their wedding day as the happiest day of their life, because if you’ve peaked at the wedding, what is the rest of your life together going to be like? The finale is on this Thursday and here is my recommendation to all you overworked, overstressed brides-to-be out there—grab some girlfriends, pop a bottle or two of champagne, and watch Bethenny get married to a guy who, I have to say, either has the patience of a saint or is maybe a little unwell. (Kidding! I like him—although if any of you ever watched the movie version of A Chorus Line, to me Jason totally looks like one of the main dancers and I am always expecting him to declaim his adolescence in verse and dance. No? Just me?) And then remember, if she can do it—so can you.